My name is Annie M Henderson, and I can’t wait to help you live life authentically and with more peace.
Things may seem smooth and easy for me now, but they weren’t always this way.
I was a people-pleaser to an extreme! As my fellow people-pleasers know, saying “No” is not our strong suit. I said, “Yes” to getting married at 19. “Yes” to not going to a college an hour away.
When I finally was able to be authentically me and come out of the closet after getting a divorce in my late 20s…I STILL was people pleasing.
Despite being happier, since I didn’t address this other problem, I feel back into my same old bad habit of saying yes to others. I then spent years in a toxic relationship and it wasn’t until I was 30, after spending a year just being by myself, spending time with my daughter, friends, laughing, learning, and reading, that I finally became a “recovering people-pleaser!”
While struggling with this, I was afraid to say no, avoided conflicts like the plague, and was afraid to hurt others feelings or worried I would scare them off if I wasn’t saying yes.
The truth was, my confidence was in the gutter. I just lost my house, was living on my own for the first time ever, and was still struggling with being a people-pleaser and in a horrible relationship. I kept reading, researching and telling myself I could fix myself or this relationship, and no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t “crack the code” and fix myself.
After awhile, I realized that I was spinning my wheels and was staying stuck no matter what I tried.
That was until I started doing the work on myself. Before this realization, I would claim I didn’t have enough time or money. I was too busy going to grad school, working full time, and raising my daughter.
I decided that to be able to raise my daughter and be successful at work, school, and in all areas that mattered, I would have to make some changes.
Trust me, changes were not my favorite thing.
I thought everything would be perfect after I started to adjust my habits…but eventually it felt like I hit a wall.
I stuck to my guns though, each time I failed I picked myself back up again and again.
It got easier when I found a Life Coach to work with that could help me remove my blinders, catch my excuses, and stay focused. Slowly but surely, things got easier. I was able to say “No”, stop over apologizing, be unapologetically me, and embrace my life while raising a daughter that picked up my new found confidence and peace instead of the people-pleasing!