3 Easy Steps to Adjust Your Life Like a Missile
How many of us are over thinkers? 🤔
Needing things to be perfect, then judging and criticizing when they aren’t… because let’s face it. They never will be.
Perfectionism is something that holds you back.
It could be because you worry about others judging you.
It could be due to all the social media and constantly wanting more and better.
Wanting those things is one thing.
Falling apart and beating yourself up when life falls short is another.
It’s a recipe for disaster.
Does Perfectionism Hold You Back?
Take me for example.
I have always thought I needed more education, more training, more certificates, more practice…
And now I have a pile of degrees, certificates, and licenses, years of practice… and none of it I actually need at this moment.
Sure, sure- it all adds up to help me show up to do what I want to do.
But if I look at all the highly successful people without a degree (Ellen Degeneres, Henry Ford, Richard Branson, Rachel Ray, Thomas Edison, Mark Zuckerberg, Ted Turner….and so on) then I can see that I’ve been holding myself back with the excuse that, “once I do this/have this, I’ll be ready.”
It’s a lie.
Right now in this very moment, I have what I need to go out and serve the world. I can help people today. If I stall out and go back to school again, it not only wastes my time, but it prevents me from helping others who are ready now.
Same with you.
Accept Feedback Like a Missile
I have a question: what does it do for you, to beat yourself up over _______?
When I was a school counselor I would talk to students about how even a missile is of course most of the time.
If that’s true, how does it hit its target with such accuracy?
It takes feedback and corrects itself.
I didn’t say the middle has a pity party and starts over.
Right where it is, it makes a slight shift to become better and get back on course.
This can be you!
3 Steps to Begin Shifting Your Life for the Better
Whether you have gotten of course with dieting/exercise. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater, make a small shift!
Whether you have gotten off course with your relationship. What if there were some slight shifts in your marriage/relationship that could make all the difference?
Whether you have gotten off course with your parenting and the negativity is piling up. Maybe you are thinking where did I go wrong and you are dreading the next few years.
Instead of going down that dark and scary path, what if you made some slight shifts today and correct your course, just like the missile?
Today try these 3 easy , yet powerful steps:
1. Where is it I am wanting to improve and why?
(Family, self talk, relationship, health, business)
2. 🧠 Brainstorm all the things you are doing well. Take a moment to brag on yourself… don’t worry, you don’t have to share…but you can! 😉
3. Start by identifying 1 small way you can shift. That’s right, it doesn’t have to be HUGE. Think of a plane altering its course by 2 degrees- You could be in a whole other country eventually!
Don’t worry, I won’t leave you without some examples. Here are some small shift examples:
Family- Learn their love languages, have a tech free time, be intentional with your words, play (even if it is for 5min)
Self-Talk- instead of focusing on who you were, focus on who you want to be. Write it or say it aloud. It is more powerful than you think! How would you talk to your kid or favorite celebrity? Give yourself that same grace!)
Relationship- remember when you first met? The butterflies! The excitement? Identify what is different and don’t be afraid to talk. Again, 5 Love languages!
Health- start by planning ahead! It’s easier to work out when you already have set your clothes out the night before and you go to sleep with intent. With food, plan ahead to cut down on impulsivity!
Business- use a planner and start and end your day with intent. Just like Olympians use the power of visualization, this can be a simple, yet incredible tool for you, too!
If you need more direction on areas to improve, check out the free Wheel of Life in the toolbox. (Link in comments)
Here’s to making a small shift that can change everything! ❤️
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